We are here occupying these bodies for a brief time, and we are here to grow, if we choose. We all know the adage that we learn from our mistakes. However, our spirit also has the opportunity to learn and grow, as the result of dealing with adversity and pain. Usually we don’t learn much from the good times and plenty. It is in the depths of physical and mental challenges that we are asked the hard questions. It is not the pain alone, but our response to the pain that holds the key to growth. Someone once said that pain multiplied by resistance leads to suffering. Put another way – “Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional” (Dr Ceri Evans). If we fight the pain, we make can it a mental torment, as well as a physical one. When we accept the way things are, we take the first step towards disempowering pain.
Try to stop dwelling on our condition or predicament, and don’t make the mistake of identifying ourselves as the condition. If we have pain in one part of our body, accept it, but then focus on a part of the body that is well. Try to focus on well-being. If we can’t find it in ourselves look for it in nature. Don’t let our condition become our alter-ego. We are so much more than that.
Don’t even give the condition or predicament the time of day. Don’t talk about it with others, other than doctors or therapists, and discourage others from bringing it up with us. Remember that there are many complimentary therapies available these days that can help us manage, reduce and sometimes eliminate pain. We can all, always be better.
Another way to rise above our own suffering is to do something positive for others in need, or for the environment. Rather than a source of continual anguish, pain can in fact, become a powerful force for good in our lives, and the lives of those around us. Pain can teach us to have compassion for ourselves, and others - even those who cause us the most anguish. They are suffering from their own pain too. Through our example of our attitude and response to challenges, we may be able positively influence how others deal with their own problems. In this way our pain can show the way to a much greater good than we can imagine right now.
Remember, we may not have chosen our current challenges, but we always have the choice about how to respond.
Rhys